27. He’s a librarian.
I’ve loved books for as long as I can remember. When I was a kid, I spent hours at my local library, checking out stacks of books, reading them, and coming back for more. I always knew that I would end up in a career that, in some way or another, involved working with words. I’m so happy to have found someone who shares my love of books!
26. He is a virtually bottomless font of knowledge.
One of his friends is fond of saying, “That thing you think you know everything about? Rand knows more about it than you do.”
It’s kinda true. I don’t know how he does it, but Rand seems to retain every bit of information he’s ever laid eyes on. He is a force to be reckoned with on the Trivial Pursuit board.
25. He sings. And as an added bonus, he’s a tenor.
Nothing quite melts my heart like a guy who can sing. Is it any wonder I fell for him after he got out the acoustic guitar and sang for me on my birthday? 😉
Check out this clip that uses a song by his band, Ookla the Mok, on YouTube.
24. He’s a hugger.
Rand is an incredibly affectionate person–with his family, his friends, and of course, with me. I love that he is so warm and open. And he gives the best hugs. Whenever I’ve had a bad day, Rand can wrap me in his arms, and it all just melts away.
I feel so lucky to be with someone who matches my level of physical affection–someone who likes to hug, and hold hands, and put his arm around me (in public!). That hasn’t always been the case in past relationships, and it was a source of distress for me. With Rand, it’s always completely effortless, and that feels amazing.
23. He makes me laugh.
He’s constantly telling me that he’s not even the funny one in his family (and admittedly, his brothers are pretty funny guys), but Rand makes me laugh on a regular basis…whether it’s cracking a joke about something we’re watching on TV, working on a bit with his music partner Adam, or performing one of his silly songs (more lyrics here), or just having a funny conversation with a friend.
And sometimes, we just enjoy watching or listening to a comedian together. Rand has brought a lot of fantastic comedy into my life–Patton Oswalt, Mitch Hedberg, Mike Birbiglia, Maria Bamford, Jim Gaffigan, Aziz Ansari, Demetri Martin–and sometimes, we just sit and laugh until we cry.
22. He’s smart.
But it’s not just that he’s smart…it’s that he values learning for learning’s sake. For so many people, learning is something you have to do…to graduate from high school, or college, or get your master’s degree so you can get a better job.
Rand enjoys watching documentaries, doing research, having conversations about politics and religion and philosophy. He likes TV shows and movies that are smartly written, that don’t pander or talk down to the viewer.
And not that I ever felt that I wasn’t smart…but being around him makes me feel smarter. 😉
21. He has a lot of friends.
Everywhere Rand goes, people seem to be attracted to him. He’s that guy who’s been in a zillion weddings. He’s the one people turn to for advice, the one people seek out to talk to at a convention. He has close friendships with both men and women, and he values all of those relationships.
It isn’t just that Rand has a lot of friends, though. It’s that he’s such a good friend. People like Rand. And, I’m happy to say, it’s been my experience that the people in Rand’s life seem to like me as well. Many of them have commented on what a great match we are, how good I am for him, and that makes me happy. Rand’s friends aren’t just Rand’s friends–they’re our friends.
20. The calming effect he has on me.
Seriously…being with Rand is like having my own personal Zen master. I don’t know what it is, or how he does it, but Rand seems to be able to talk me down from any minor (or major) freak-out that comes up. Sometimes, all it takes is a hug.
And not only can he bring me back from the edge of a freak-out, but the freak-outs seem to happen a lot less with him in my life. This is an incredibly good thing, as I’m sure anyone who knew me pre-Rand would agree. It’s like, with him by my side, I can handle anything life throws my way.
19. He loves to share media.
I had a birthday not long after we started dating. He bought me several things, including a book that was on my Amazon wish list, a CD by one of his favorite bands, and a graphic novel he thought I would enjoy. And you know what? He was absolutely right. I did.
Rand’s shared a lot of his favorite media with me…bands, movies, books, etc. A lot of my favorite music to listen to is stuff that I wouldn’t have known about if it hadn’t been for him. But it goes the other way, too. I brought some Carbon Leaf into his world, as well as many of my favorite shows like The West Wing, Sports Night, Scrubs, Lost, Arrested Development, and others still waiting to be shared.
18. His shaggy-crazy professor-wannabe rockstar hair.
If you had asked me, 5 years ago, if I saw myself with a guy with long hair, I would have said no. But I adore Rand’s hair. I like it when it’s a little bit too long and kind of messy. I love the way it’s a little bit curly. But most of all, I love the way it totally suits him.
17. He appreciates me.
He really, truly does appreciate ALL of me, even the parts I sometimes don’t like. What’s more, he never lets a day go by where he doesn’t show me how much he appreciates me, with his words and his actions.
16. He’s a big nerd.
This is a guy who writes songs about Star Trek. He goes to his friendly neighborhood comic book store every week to buy his comics. He goes to filk conventions (and takes me with him). I love it…I think it’s adorable, and I appreciate all of the cool comics/graphic novels/music/people I’ve come into contact with because of it!
15. He thinks I’m beautiful.
Not only that, but he never hesitates to tell me how beautiful he thinks I am. It’s pretty hard to feel bad about yourself when you’ve got a constant source of reassurance. 😉
14. His love of food.
I was never, shall we say, the most adventurous of eaters. Being with Rand has seriously widened my food horizons. I love that there are so many things we can enjoy together. He’s brought some interesting dining into my life, and I appreciate that so much. For example, I would never have experienced the Korean barbecue if it weren’t for him!
I also love that he likes Indian food, because I had no one to go to the Indian restaurant with…actually, one of our early dates was for Indian food! And even there, he’s gotten me to step out of my comfort zone and try some new dishes. Some of the things I’ve tried are now my favorites.
Rand also likes to cook, and who doesn’t love a man who likes to cook? 🙂
13. His silliness.
I love that Rand, for all his intelligence and education, enjoys being silly. No matter what we’re doing, I always, always have fun with him. I think too many people forget how important it is to have fun and not take yourself too seriously, and so I feel lucky to have that sense of fun in our relationship.
12. I’ve always felt like an important part of his life.
Even early on in our relationship, when our busy schedules sometimes made it difficult to coordinate times for dates and whatnot, Rand always made sure that I knew he wanted to be with me. He still does.
11. His creativity.
Being with someone who nurtures his creativity on a regular basis makes me happy. I love being able to talk about creative things with him, and I love that he surrounds himself with intelligent, creative, interesting people.
10. His eyes.
Rand’s eyes are a truly lovely shade of blue, and they’re framed by lashes so nice they almost make me jealous. I just know that when he was little, older female relatives lamented the fact that those lashes were wasted on a boy.
9. His kindness.
Rand is one of the kindest, gentlest people I know. I think that’s part of what attracts so many people to him. I know it’s one of the things that attracts me to him!
8. He supports and encourages me.
In every area of my life, Rand is my constant cheerleader and supporter. I always feel like he’s on “my side,” and that makes for a very happy Erin.
7. The way he understands and uses language.
We’re both word nerds. I think I’ve covered that fairly well. 😉 I love listening to Rand talk about the way he and Adam crafted a particular lyric. I love the way he can get me to (grudgingly) appreciate Eminem. I love reading poetry with him. I’m thankful to have found a partner who loves words so much!
6. His openness.
Rand has always been completely honest and forthright with me, from the very beginning. It set the tone for our whole relationship. I never feel like he’s hiding anything from me, or that I have to hide anything from him. There’s never been any sense of game playing or anything like that…just 100% open communication.
5. Children adore him.
While we may go back and forth (and back and forth) about having our own, nothing quite melts my heart like watching the little ones interact with Rand. Whether they’re his nephews, or the kids of friends, they seem to take to Rand instantly. It’s utterly adorable.
4. He thinks I’m beautiful when I cry.
No, not the “I have PMS and I haven’t eaten lunch, and OH MY GOD why does the universe hate me so” kind of crying, but the “watching that episode of Futurama about Fry’s dog that is the saddest thing ever” kind of crying. (Disney movies and the occasional Hallmark commercial also do the trick.) Rand not only does not find this ridiculous, but rather endearing.
I love that this is something that he loves about me.
3. The way he loves me.
I know this is going to sound corny and cliche, but Rand truly understands that love is a verb. Every day, he makes a conscious decision to show his love for me, in a million little ways. While I have nothing against flowers every now and then (hey, what girl doesn’t like flowers?), it’s those everyday small things that make the biggest difference.
2. He’s my best friend.
I believe that the best, most successful relationships are the ones in which your partner is also your friend. Now, nothing ever takes the place of your girlfriends, and I have plenty of amazing ones…but Rand and I have a deep, powerful friendship that is the basis for our life together. We enjoy being romantic, but we also enjoy being silly. We share everything, little things and big things. He’s the first person I want to talk to when I’m having a good day or a bad one. We just make sense.
1. He’s marrying me. 😉
In all seriousness…after more than one relationship that I thought was “the one” that ended badly, after years of wondering if I would ever find him, I cannot say enough how wonderful it is to have found someone to share my life with.
I have never had a moment’s doubt about Rand being the right person for me, and tomorrow, we will make that promise to each other, surrounded by our friends and family, and I cannot think of anything (or anyone) more perfect. I love him more than I ever knew was possible.